Oh wait, am I a slut?

For any of you who are not aware, there is a new trend that has been rearing its ugly head across the Internet: Slut Shaming.

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Ah, I hear you ask ‘what is Slut Shaming?’ Believe it or not this is an actual concept that exists and not something that I have merely invented in order to facilitate a new blog post. Before I move on any further, for any of you who are blissfully unaware I would like to provide a very quick definition of the word ‘slut’. Evidently good ol’ Google always pulls through:

So basically a ‘slut’ is:

‘A slovenly or promiscuous woman.’

First of all, lets all take a minute to let out a loud Spongebob Squarepants style laugh – bahahahaha! Rather than try to argue a viewpoint of why the terminology ‘Slut’ is deeply misogynistic and also very reductionist, instead I want to examine the concept of ‘Slut Shaming.’

Slut Shaming is spreading like a bad smell (think rotten eggs, sour milk, garlic breath) across the Internet in which a girls image/ stories about her/ testimonials about guys who have ‘been there, done that’ are publicized across the Internet – just so everybody knows exactly what a dirty little slut she is.  Victimising females for their actions is nothing new and it has been happening ever since the start of time (remember girls Eve got us kicked out of Paradise- we are to blame for all of mankind’s problems) but the fact that the Internet is a worldwide connector has led to a more sinister and anonymous type of victimization of females.

So before we all undertake a mob mentality and start yielding sticks of fire and pitchforks to identify these females – lets stop a minute, take a deep breath and assess the situation: We are living in 2013, not in 1913 – where there are more defining aspects to an individuals character than just their sexual capabilities and experiences.

As if it isn’t hard enough for young females to attempt to juggle life in a confusing world where on the one hand we are expected be sexually liberated as well as sexually pure there are those individuals waiting to pounce and declare any girl they want as a slut. And god forbid if someone says you are slut, then surely it must be true? RIGHT? Well not quite….

First of all, being the ripe old age of 23, I remember an age when the Internet did not control our lives. An age where there was such a thing as dial up. An age when the coolest thing on the Internet was hi5 – (any of you who say you did not have hi5 and await ‘testimonials’ are liars) and a time where if a rumour was spread about you, it was just that. A rumour with no real concrete evidence apart from a whisper of ‘he said, she said.’ However thanks to Facebook, Twitter and so forth rumours are available to be publisiced anonymously and spread across the world.

So lets just break down the concept of why ‘Slut Shaming’ is so popular; the term ‘slut’ is a term endorsed by patriarchal society in order to condemn women for acting in a manner that is not considered ‘proper’. Quite frankly, it is a term to keep women in ‘check.’ There are common instances of photos being saved and uploaded onto Facebook on a page dedicated to ‘Sluts’ where often Internet trolls (keyboard warriors) discuss every aspect of her physical appearance, and post little witty remarks such as: ‘Hey girl did you know that urm…your boobs go inside your top?’ Wow. These little trolls are giving Shakespeare a run for his money.

Sadly, females are expected to behave in a certain way. Females are expected to uphold certain virtues. To this I say; fuck off.  The biological differentiation of male and female should not dictate the way in which we behave, i.e. there should not be a certain rule for males and another for females. ‘Slut Shaming’ is done as a means to enforce traditional gender roles, in which a females reputation is all that she can essentially offer, and to tarnish that is to tarnish her. Disturbingly this trend of ‘Slut Shaming’ is more dominant within a younger generation (man I feel old) in which the Internet for them, unlike those who have grown up without it being a dominant presence ultimately represents a reality of life to them.

So for those of you who post photos of your ex-partners, and fellow females who post pictures of girls and declare them to be ‘sluts’ all I can say is GROW UP.  We are in 2013! We now have legalised gay marriage, Snoop Dogg is now Snoop Lion, a commoner (Kate Middleton) has married into the royal family! And all you can do is post pictures of girls and call them sluts? I know times are hard, and the weather is shit, and we as a British public are often puzzled as to what we can do to entertain ourselves, but come on, there must be other alternatives? Knitting? Stamp collecting? Basically anything is better than sitting behind a computer screen exercising your bullying ways and ‘shaming’ girls that quite frankly you have no authority to even pass judgment on, let alone post their photos on the internet and encourage others to judge them.

Being part of the Western world we all have a fair right to express, conduct and dress ourselves how we wish, and not to be ridiculed for it. Sadly as long as the term ‘slut’ is used as a derogatory term against females it is something that many females will be terrified to be accused of being.

Just remember, ‘Slut Shaming’ does not just shame females, but it shames all of us as a society as it exposes that we still do not view each other as equals.

Until next time…x

P.S – kind request to ‘Slut Shamers’ out there  – I would greatly appreciate it if you didn’t post my photo with a witty caption on a Slut shaming site. However if you insist on doing so, please run the caption by me at first – I would hate to be misrepresented.

Thanks in advance.

2 Thoughts on “Oh wait, am I a slut?

  1. Your blog is brilliant! Keep it up 🙂

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